Musings From The Heart
An
Essay A Day For A Year
By
Roe
Day
104 April 13, 2012
Will
Swinging Save Or Destroy A Marriage?
Part
2
In an intense and daring and
wild fashion, couples that enter into and practice Swinging are speeding up
their problems, and the demise of their relationship. Ironically, couples that do not enter into
Swinging are freeze drying the very same sexual problems in sexual frustration
and sexual denial and sexual repression, and they will eventually find
themselves in the same spot as Swingers, and the demise of their relationship
is inevitable. Either that, or the
relationship simply stagnates and dulls and becomes mundane and spark-less at
the same speed and in the same way that the couple’s sexuality stagnates and
dulls and becomes mundane and spark-less, and the couple simply settles for less,
which in terms of Love and happiness in Life, is unfortunately and sadly less.
Unfortunately, all Swingers
are practicing Swinging in the wrong way, because of ignorance and denial, and
the inability to truly understand what Swinging is and what it represents to
the heart and psyche of children that grow up to be adults. Swinging is in
actuality a spicy and speedy relationship cooker to get them to the next sexual
Love affair to replace the one they are in. Swinging is a rebellion and
retaliation and punishment of each other in a couple, and a test for each other
that both partners are destined to fail if the truth not faced in the beginning.
Swinging, practiced indefinitely, is a clever and double-dealing relationship
maintainer for tentative and waning relationships where sex is unfulfilling in
a traditional way. Swinging is for mutually
ignorant or lying partners interested in fucking each other over by fucking others
and being fucked by others, and in the end destroying their Love, and or
settling for less in their Love.
In long term Swingers, Swinging does not make
or break the relationship as it should, but instead amputates Love permanently
in a mutually using and mutually degrading fashion. Long term Swinging is long term denial and
long term abuse. Short term Swinging can
have incredibly beneficial results, but the stakes are very high.
Where does the idea of
Swinging come from within a couple? Viagra and the similar are 10 times more
purchased than the largest selling drugs in the history of the world, as 50-70%
of all married men worldwide are bored and restrained in what is called
“vanilla” religious sexuality, and or denied sexual satisfaction and release by
their spouses, to the unfortunate level of the global pandemic of male impotence.
60-80% of all women worldwide are bored and restrained in woman-hating religion
and vanilla sexuality, and are unable or unwilling or supposedly un-needing
regular orgasm, and or denied regular orgasm by their spouses. If women had a
penis to erect to prove their sexuality and achieve visible orgasm, the female
sexual enhancement drugs would surpass Viagra. Swinging is about sexual
unhappiness and being sexually unfulfilled in a relationship.
We are all, without
exception, sexually repressed and damaged and sexually suffering, to one degree
or another. In truth, sexual problems are universal and in all of us, as sexual
problems are the problems of womb life and birth and early childhood, and we
all have problems from this era. This is completely normal. Sexual problems are
caused by the imprint on our parents, parents who are sexually repressed or
perverted to one degree or another, and far more than we are. Sexual problems are caused by our sexually fearful
and repressed and pleasure fearing and dirty societies and repressed and pleasure
fearing and dirty religions, which caused our parents to be sexually fearful
and repressed and dirty, just like their parents caused the same in them. In truth, there is nothing fearful or dirty or
in need of repression about our beautiful bodies, our beautiful nudity, and our
beautiful sexuality, no matter what it is or what we do if we are mutually
consenting and pleasuring. Swinging is
the manifestation of sexual problems that we all have, visibly lived out with
people outside of our relationship instead of hidden and repressed.
Our sexuality that is other
than loving and respectful and elevating and redeeming, our sexuality that is
not balanced in mutual respect and value and in equal and lateral expression,
is DEVIANT, and PERVERTED. Deviant and perverted sexuality is caused by trauma
and deprivation and unfulfilled needs in the womb and during birth, and in the
early imprint stage of our early childhood by our parents. Deviant sexuality is
caused by womb and birth and babyhood and early childhood deviance and
perversion and repression and fetish and neuroses, inherited by our parents and
religions and world around us. Swinging
is deviant and perverted sexuality as a couple, visibly lived out with people
outside of our relationship instead of hidden and repressed like others.
All humans are conceived
with a pure heart, prior to damage to trauma and deprivation and unfulfilled
needs of the womb and birth and childhood, and prior to psychological and
emotional disappointment and hurt. A
pure human heart desires Love, and Love is mutual elevation, and mutual
valuation, and mutual respect, and mutual redemption, and mutual care, and
mutual compassion, and mutual empathy, and mutual good and sweet and special
beauty. All human hearts desire true
Love, and true Love is romantic and sexual, soul-mate Love, and true human
sexual Love is exclusive with another soul that feels the same about us, and
true human sexual Love is monogamous inherently, with nothing to do with
organized religion.
We are the pinnacle and
crowning achievement of Nature, after a billion years, for Love to come back
home to itself in exclusive and monogamous and lifelong devotion in Love of one
sperm and one egg. And that is one man’s
sperm, engulfing one woman’s eggs, forever and ever, to live happily ever
after. True human Love does not include the sexual and romantic affiliation or
contact with any other person, ever since the break of universal consciousness
into our human consciousness. It has
taken us a billion years for him to betroth to and Love only HER, and for her
to betroth to and Love only HIM, and the Prince is very proud of his one and
only lifelong Princess, and the Princess is very proud of her one and only
lifelong Prince. The childhood fairy
tales are our true childhood and adult hearts, before the stories become
perverted at the end to pervert us, the way the writer and our parents that read
us these stories were perverted.
Swinging is clearly sexual
deviance lived out visibly with others outside of our relationship rather than
hidden and repressed like others. Swinging is deviant sexuality with our
partners because it deviates from true human exclusive and monogamous
Love. (I am speaking of sexual Love’s
own monogamy contained within our own hearts, preceding religion by millions of
years). Swinging is a sexual anomaly only because it is acted out, as we all
have the same inner scenarios. Swinging is sexual perversion and sexual fetish
and sexual neurosis, which all of us have, but most people are in denial, or
keep it hidden, or repressed, or act it out secretly in infidelity or secret
perverted deviance.
Swinging is unfulfilled
sexual needs and dreams and fantasies that are rooted in early childhood trauma
and deprivation and unfulfilled childhood needs and pain. Swinging is entirely
pain driven from our deep, sexual unconscious, and Swinging is psychologically
and emotionally defensive, and designed to be eroticized pain for our pleasure,
but ultimately in our defense. Swinging
is a defensive torture of our partner, and a defensive test for our partner,
and we love to get off on our dark and dirty and kinky and racy and sick and
taboo acts, for fun, to thrill ourselves and our partner. This is normal. But sooner
or later we learn what we needed to learn, and know what we needed to know, and
prove what we needed to prove, and then our nasty fun and our tests are complete.
Out partner is doing the same to and
with us. The question is whether
Swinging will save or destroy our marriage or relationship.
To be continued tomorrow in part 3
See you tomorrow.
yourpersonalmuse@gmx.com
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