Musings From The Heart
An Essay A Day For A Year
By Roe
Day 138 May 17, 2012
Cheat-Hers And Cheat-Hims
Part 3
We must all devote ourselves to never dishonoring Love and
trust and dignity, by never provoking or acting out cheating. We must never become Cheat-hers or
Cheat-Hims, or Fuck-Hers or Fuck-Hims, and if we feel compelled to do so, we
must announce our intentions, and suffer the consequences, and maintain an
honorable and dignified self, even with sexual and emotional acts outside of
our vows, once declared. We owe it to
ourselves and our partners and spouses to be the best persons we can be at all
times. To be the best persons we can be
at all times we must keep conscious that our vows and contracts with each other
are simply our best intentions at any given time, and that our human frailties,
our traumas and deprivations and unfulfilled needs from our childhoods, will
always be pulling and pushing us to hurt ourselves and each other. We must
never become complacent that our vows allow us to be lazy, or obstinate, or
fat, or ugly, or sexually unavailable, or unwilling to address the needs of our
partners, for if we do, we have just produced our own cheater and our own
victimization, and we are equally guilty for what happens to us. As partners
with emotional and sexual vows to one and only one person, we are on duty, at
work, and required to perform and produce 24/7/365 until death, and it is our
joy to be everything we can be at all times for and to our partners, for the
ecstasy of our Love with our chosen persons is our own ecstasy.
To be the best persons we can be at all times does not mean
being only good people doing good acts all the time, but being an honest person
with honest acts all the time, whether dark or light, good or bad. There are many standards of “best” on the
dark side, especially regarding sexuality.
Regarding sexuality, there is no such thing as a “good woman” or a “bad
woman”, or a “good man” and a “bad man”, these are ridiculous, conflicting,
double standards that are results of primal trauma, and perpetrations of
archaic pleasure denying religions. All
women are good women all the time at heart, and all women perpetrate and are
victims of good and bad acts all the time, including and especially
sexual. All men are good men all the
time at heart, and all men are perpetrators and victims of good and bad acts
all the time, including and especially sexual.
We who engage in exclusive vows of sexuality and Love owe it to
ourselves and our mates to be everything that we can be sexually, and that
includes the entire sexual repertoire of any of our rivals. This means that with mutual trust and
consent, behind closed doors, we men must out “bad boy” any bad boy, and we
women must out “bad girl” any bad girl.
It is our duty and responsibility and joy to please our partners in
every way possible, and no slut or asshole should be able to attract or steal
our partners, for we are always above and beyond every prince or asshole,
always above and beyond every princess or bitch, all the time.
Any woman who can walk the line of Sunday School Teacher by
day, and super slut, alternating with sweet lover by night, while being a
dignified person, good mother, best friend, and fair and powerful bitch, will
never have her man cheating on her, but she must care enough about him to meet
all his needs, dark and light. And her
man has a challenge to face his ridiculous, societal and religious double
standard, that these are two different women. All women are both princess and
slut, all women are queen and bitch, it is the same person. If he wants to
cheat with a hottie, let it be wifey playing out the role for and with him for
both of their sexy amusements. This man
must have only one standard for his wife, and that is an unconditionally loving
one, including her dark and light side revealed only for his trust and care and
enjoyment, and he must never, never betray her trust for revealing this side of
her for him. A woman must always be the
most beautiful she can be for her man, the sexiest, the funnest and funniest,
the best at everything she can manage, not just because her younger and better
rival is always watching to steal her man, but because her man means that much
to her, and she wants him to be happy.
Any man who can walk the line of gentleman priest by day, and
asshole monger alternating with sweet lover by night, while being a dignified
person, good father, best friend, and fair and powerful jerk, will never have
his woman cheating on him, but he must care enough about her to meet all her
needs, dark and light. And his woman has
a challenge to face her ridiculous, societal and religious double standard,
that these are two different men. All
men are both prince and monger, all men are king and asshole, it is the same
person. If she wants to cheat with a hunk, let it be hubbie playing out the
role for and with her for both of their sexy amusements. This woman must have only one standard for
her husband, and that is an unconditionally loving one, including his dark and
light side revealed only for her trust and care and enjoyment, and she must
never, never betray his trust for revealing this side of her. A man must always be the most handsome he
can be for his woman, the sexiest, the funnest and funniest, the best at
everything he can manage, not just because his younger and better rival is
always watching to steal his woman, but because his woman means that much to
him, and he wants her to be happy.
Let us all dream of emerging from all of our sad and
disappointing childhoods and disappointing parents to become incredible
Love-Hers, and Love-Hims, and let us all surrender to our real good boys and bad
boys, our good girls and bad girls, and let us all give a gift of unconditional
devotion to each other for unconditional hot, fulfilling sex, and unconditional
warm and fulfilling friendship and trust and Love. The temptation towards fucking and fucking up
is enormous, and it is as enormous as the damage that our parents and our world
has done to us. We owe it to each other
to always do the best we can and be the best we can be, for ourselves and each
other. Prey for a day when every
husband’s upstart hunk rivals realize that hubbie is “badder” than they could
ever be, and also his lady’s best friend and father of her children. No asshole
could ever compete with that. Prey for a day when every wife’s hottie upstart
rivals realize that wifey is “badder” than they could ever be, and her man’s
best friend and mother of his children. No slut could ever compete with
that. There is no way to compete with a
man or woman who really cares about their partners and makes sure that they are
happy and fulfilled in every way, especially sexually. There is no reason ever for Cheat-Hers and
Cheat-Hims, if the potential cheater voices his or her needs and frustrations
openly and honestly, and if their partners heed and address these
concerns. Here is to hot sex and hot
friendships and hot loves everybody.
Here is to keeping our problems between us, and here is to caring enough
about each other to grow through these problems, for ourselves and our
partners.
And you that desire to fuck and fall in love, concentrate on
single and available people that are worthy of your Love, and who are worthy to
Love you, both dark and light, concentrate on your own worth and dignity, and
let the people with vows of worth and dignity maintain theirs.
See you tomorrow.
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