Musings From The Heart
An Essay A Day For A Year
By Roe
Day 136 May 15, 2012
Cheat-Hers And Cheat-Hims
Part 1
Cheat-Hers are men that have sex with other women while they
are in a vow to be sexually and emotionally faithful to their wives or
girlfriends, and Cheat-Hims are women that have sex with other men while they
are in a vow to be sexually and emotionally faithful to their husbands or
boyfriends. “Cheaters” are the ones in
the relationship who violate the rules and agreements of the relationship, and
cheaters are the liars and deceivers and perpetrators. “Victims” are the ones
in the relationship who are cheated on, and the ones that feel and are seen as
the innocent ones and the victims of the infidelity. It seems that cheaters are to blame for the
transgression of infidelity, but in fact each party, perpetrator and victim,
are no more or no less than 50% guilty or 50% innocent each for the act of
infidelity. Cheaters are victims of
their partners leaving them unfulfilled and unhappy and frustrated, and cheating
is simply a tit for tat of anger and punishment against the partner that has
let the cheater down. Infidelity and
cheating are devastating and very complicated symbiotic acts of rebellion and
retaliation and revenge between members of a couple, and both persons, cheater
and victim, are equally involved and responsible for the tit for tat of
cheating and its aftermath.
No person ever cheats on another person in a vacuum, meaning
cheating is impossible without motive, and without unhappiness and
disenchantment and frustration on the part of the cheater. No cheating is possible
without the perverse joy of rebellion and revenge of the cheater, and the
playing out of psycho-sexual and primal trauma felt as a sexual fetish on the
part of the cheater. No cheating is
possible unless the victim is equally responsible to provide the motive, unless
the victim is equally at fault for the unhappiness and disenchantment and
frustration of the cheater, and no cheating is possible unless the perpetrator
and victim symbiotically fit into the psycho-sexual and primal sexual fetish pattern
of perpetrator-victim. It is clear that cheaters are liars and deceivers, but
the victims of cheaters are liars and deceivers also, for they lie to
themselves and their partners and others about their failure to sexually and
emotionally satisfy their partners, and admit and correct their serious sexual
and emotional problems and unhappinesses and disenchantments and frustrations
in the relationship that provokes cheating, and fuels the cheater and
ultimately the pain of the victim.
Both cheater and victim in a couple are equally guilty of
many violations of the rules and agreements and vows of the relationship
leading up to a cheating. Sexual infidelity
is of course a sexual act, and the key words are sexual and infidelity. When a couple is brand new and in Love, the
couple is also sexually bonded and connected, sexually fun and fulfilling,
sexually very active, and let’s hope, sexually interesting and exciting, and
just plain sexually hot. No man or woman
in a relationship has the motive or intent to cheat when they are sexually
bonded to their partners, and when they are sexually connected to their
partner. No woman or man in a relationship has the need or desire to cheat when
they are having fun and fulfilling sex often with their partners, no partner in
a couple wants to cheat when they are sexually very active, when sex is
interesting and exciting, and no person would ever think of cheating when sex
with the person that they are in love with is hot, hot, hot. The victim of
infidelity is guilty of the violation of the vows and agreements of the
relationship by not sexually and emotionally satisfying their partners, and by not
doing their part to maintain a sexual and emotional relationship that is active
and exciting and hot.
When a person cheats, the cheater and the new lover become
the beneficiaries of sexual bonding and sexual connection, they have sexual fun
that is fulfilling, they are sexually active, their sex is interesting and
exciting, and “hot” returns to the lifestyle of the cheater. This is in part the motive of the cheater, but
this is the direct pleasure and thrill only.
The hidden motive and agenda, and perverse pleasure, is to rebel against
the victim of cheating, to punish the victim of cheating, and to challenge the
victim of cheating to wake up and realize that they are failing in their sexual
and emotional responsibility to their partners.
This is no justification or excuse for a person who is expressing rage
and frustration in a relationship to lie and deceive and avenge by cheating, it
is simply a tit for tat to express to the victim that they have failed to be
sexually interesting and sexually fun and fulfilling, and sexually hot. It is devastating to the victim of infidelity
to realize and admit that there is someone else that has sexually bonded and
connected with their partners. It is
indescribably painful to the victim to realize and admit that their partner has
found someone more sexually fun and fulfilling, more sexually active, more
sexually interesting and exciting, but most importantly, sexually hotter.
Women are fiercely rivalrous, and when the woman victim of
infidelity finds out that her man is sexually with another woman it is
incredibly threatening, with survival instinct and hereditary legacy going back
millions of years. When she finds out that the ”other” woman is sexually
better, and sexual more often, she is outraged, she loses face, her pride is hurt, and her female indignation
goes off the scale. This is the very
result that is so delicious for the cheating man, and where the fetish of
cheating really lies. Cheating is the
ultimate “fuck you”, and most audacious wake-up call and challenge to the
sexually inferior and unfulfilling partner.
The woman with the relationship vows is caught in the false religious and
societal paradigm of the supposed “good woman” and “good mother”, which is an
invented notion regarding sexuality, and she behaves accordingly to maintain
her respect. The new lover has no such
vow or investment yet, and her weapon against the wife or girlfriend is full
fledged dark sexuality in the form of promiscuous, no holes barred sex, to
outperform the wife or girlfriend of the man. The slut or the man stealer is the most
devastating woman in the world to the wife or girlfriend trying to maintain a
respectable and honorable standard to her man, and the man who is unfaithful
uses this double standard of his against his trustworthy woman by doing with
other women what he would not tolerate with his wife or girlfriend. This double dealing of his own double
standard is infuriating to women, and by his challenge and slap in the face he
unleashes the infamous wrath of the infamous scorned woman and abandoning
woman.
Men are fiercely rivalrous, and when the man victim of
infidelity finds out that his woman is sexually with another man it is
incredibly threatening, with survival instinct and hereditary legacy going back
millions of years. When he finds out that the ”other” man is sexually better,
and sexual more often, he is outraged, he loses face, his pride is hurt, and his defensive
aggression and hurt goes off the scale.
This is the very result that is so delicious for the cheating woman, and
where the fetish of cheating really lies.
Cheating is the ultimate “fuck you”, and most audacious wake-up call and
challenge to the sexually inferior and unfulfilling male. The man with the relationship vows is caught
in the false religious paradigm of the supposed “good man” and “good father”,
which is an invented notion regarding sexuality, and he behaves
accordingly. The new lover has no such
vow or investment yet, and his weapon against the husband or boyfriend is full-fledged
dark sexuality in the form of promiscuous, no holes barred sex to outperform the
husband or boyfriend of the woman. The
asshole or the woman user is the most devastating man in the world to the
husband or boyfriend trying to maintain a respectable and honorable standard to
her woman, and the woman who is unfaithful uses this double standard of hers
against her trustworthy man by doing with other men what she would not tolerate
with her husband or boyfriend. This double
dealing of her own double standard is infuriating to men, and by her challenge
and slap in the face she unleashes the infamous aggressive and physically
punishing male and abandoning male.
To be continued tomorrow in part 2
See you tomorrow.
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