Musings From The Heart
An Essay A Day For A Year
By Roe
Day 87 March 27, 2012
Ecstatic Birth
There is a term running around out there in the birthing world that is “ecstatic”. The idea is that women have and hope to have ecstatic births. I would like to explore exactly what that is, and what it is supposed to be. Birth is, we believe, an incredibly painful process, and a harrowing process, and even a dangerous process. Birth is in actuality a process long perfected by nature many, many millions of years ago, and not meant to be painful, or harrowing, or even dangerous. If women align with nature’s plan for birthing, they can in fact have ecstatic and perfectly safe births. What woman would not want to have a pain free and perfectly safe birth? The truth is that this beautiful idea is possible for any woman. In order to have an ecstatic birth it is necessary for her to understand nature’s beautiful and perfect process, and to trust herself and nature.
Nature designed birth to be not just ecstatic, but orgasmic. Birth contractions and are in actuality meant to be intensely euphoric, and orgasmic, and mother and child are designed to surf these giddy, fluttery contraction-orgasms, and the process is meant to be a first line and first imprint of life that is loving and orgasmic. Why then does birth scream and hurt and terrify? If the human heart-psyche union of the mother is entirely pain free, and that means no psycho-emotional trauma or deprivation or unfulfilled needs at all during and since her own birth, then birth will be ecstatic and orgasmic for mother and unborn and being birthing child. But when the heart-psyche of the mother is racked with pain and fear and trauma and psycho-emotional deprivation and unfulfilled needs from her own birth and childhood, then she will feel searing pain and fear during childbirth herself and pass this experience on to her child. The amount of pain that a mother feels during childbirth and thereby passes on to her child is directly proportionate to the level of repressed pain that she has in her own psyche from her own birth and childhood.
It is possible to heal psycho-emotional pain, and it is not necessary to pass birth and early childhood trauma down from generation to generation. This requires long term grieving and mourning of birth trauma and early childhood trauma through deep feeling therapy or Primal Therapy. It is a documented fact that many deeply hurt mothers have, after decades of deep feeling healing and integration of pain, had actual orgasmic births. And when a child is born orgasmically, they will not pass on harrowing and terrifying birth and early childhood trauma onto the next generation. So how can any woman have at least an ecstatic birth, if not an orgasmic birth, when she still carries in her heart-psyche all her pain and issues? Natures beautiful design is called “shock”.
Imagine a woman traveling in an automobile at 50 mph, and then she suddenly impacts a concrete wall. She is badly hurt, her body is broken, and of course she is in so much intense pain that she goes into shock. When she is in shock she is in a kind of natural drug induced ecstasy that blocks her fear and pain. Her brain secretes a hormone called “endorphin”, which is the hormone that morphine was cloned from. The amazing truth is that one’s own morphine is 10 times more powerful than the strongest synthetic morphine. During the shock she is not aware of her pain, and afterwards, if she survives, she barely has a memory of trauma or pain or fear.
In truth, if a woman has had a traumatic birth herself, and a traumatic childhood, and a difficult life, if she has issues, she cannot and will not have an ecstatic or orgasmic birth. You cannot wish for or hope for and receive ecstasy out of a vacuum. If a woman’s experience from her own birth and her childhood is pain and suffering, her birth and the beginning of her child’s life will be pain and suffering. The conundrum is that birth trauma and early childhood trauma is so horrifically painful that it is virtually entirely repressed in the unconscious. This means that all mothers are in terrible pain and are about to pass this pain onto their fetuses and newborns, but they are not aware of it, and that is why we all think that birth is fearful and painful. Now comes mother nature to the rescue with “shock”, and boatloads of ecstatic natural morphine, her own endorphins.
In order for the birth process to function properly for a woman with her own birth pain to birth ecstatically, the birthing mother must go into “shock”, and to go into shock she needs a huge amount of pain to trigger the release of the pain killing endorphins. The birthing mother must travel at not 50 mph, but 150 mph, and she must come up against her brick wall, and she must surrender to her perfectly natural accident called birth. When any mother absolutely cannot take her pain and struggle of labor and childbirth anymore, she comes to her own rescue and naturally morphines or endorphins herself into ecstasy.
All mammals birth in ecstasy all the time, and human mammals are supposed to birth in ecstasy all the time. Anyone who has ever been around any mammal birthing, any cat or dog or rabbit or cow or horse or pig, has seen endorphin ecstasy. The far off glassy eyed look in the eyes, the tongue out and panting, the virtually orgasmic, zen like focus in the moment, of creating life, is in actuality painless. No one has ever seen an animal carry on like a human woman during birth. Human animal women are supposed to have a far off glassy eyed look on their faces when they birth, they are supposed to be so high on their own natural drug of birth that they are in an ecstatic and high world of their own. This world is non cortical, non verbal, non controlling, non smart, and non interactive with anyone. When a woman has an ecstatic birth with huge shots of endorphins, her child is birthed high on the ecstasy of life as well, and mother nature chaparones the next generation into a Love birth, despite the fact that the mother did not have a Love birth of her own.
The birth process was perfected by nature many, many millions of years before the cerebral cortex and conscious thought was active and functional. Birth is a primordial reptilian process, and it is controlled and orchestrated by the earliest and lowest part her brain, the reptilian brain. Birth is like a heart beating and lungs breathing and bladder pee-ing and anus releasing, birth is an autonomous biological process that does not require a thinking or acting cortex brain. As a matter of fact the best way to ruin and traumatize a birth and cause searing pain is to have a woman conscious and present and active and complaining and ordering and being a hindrance to herself and everyone else. Birthing mothers need to hit that wall, and hit it alone, and when they do, they need to relax and surrender and let go and her reptilian brain and her child will take over.
As a matter of truth and fact, the fetus and unborn and birthing child takes over and births her or himself. The child is the birth orchestrator and the mother needs to simply listen and obey. When the mother is in psychic and subliminal and psycho-emotional synch with her birthing child, there are never birth complications. There is no such thing as babies too big or too late or cords around necks that are a problem, or any other issues that the child and mother cannot solve together. When the birthing mother goes into “shock” on huge amounts of soothing endorphins, her cortex turns off, and she releases herself to her child and a billion years of instinct, and she is in ecstasy, and her child is in ecstasy, and she has a natural, ecstatic birth.
Virtually every mother with a newborn in her arms after an ecstatic birth remarks that she wants to have another baby, while she is holding her newborn baby, that is how ecstatically high she is. She has no memory of the pain that caused the trigger of the endorphins, but only as kitty and bunny in labor. Ecstatic, natural endorphin birth drugs are the most ecstatic drugs in the universe, 10 times the ecstasy that any heroine or morphine could ever offer, and it is nature’s trick to help the mother beyond and through her own pain, and to quiet and tranquilize the mother’s thinking and active brain so that she can feel and hear and respond to her birthing child.
No mother needs birth preparations or practice or knowledge or birth partners or experience, she only needs to be in her safe and quiet and dark and comfortable primordial cave, and she needs to feel her pain, and then she will fly into ancient and ecstatic Love birth, and she will get out of the way so that her Love child can be born. In this way she trusts herself, and her child trusts himself or herself during birth, and this will lead to a lifetime of trust and then the ecstatic and trusting Love birth of the next generation. It all starts with mothers who brave to return birth back into the arms of perfect mothers and their perfect children, and a billion years of nature’s perfection.
See you tomorrow.
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