Musings From The Heart
An Essay A Day For A Year
By Roe
Day 95 April 4, 2012
The Home Schooling Disaster
Part 1
Home schooling is a a disaster for children everywhere. My heart goes out to any child that is ever schooled, for no one should ever be “schooled”, but “home” schooling degrades and and misuses the beauty of parenting, and further degrades “schooling” beyond its already negative effects upon children. There, I wanted to make sure that the reader could glean that I am against the schooling of children, and even more so, the home schooling of children. How did I do? Now I suppose I should get on with “why” I feel this way.
The first “idea” to wrap our minds around, is the mistaken idea that any child or person for that matter should be “schooled”, or “taught”, or “educated” at all. All three of these ideas are fascistic ideas of hierarchical arrogance, and it all boils down to trust in oneself and then trust in others, or the lack thereof. If we were not trusted to know what we wanted and how we would reach or accomplish what we wanted ourselves, and we were “schooled” and “taught” and “educated”, then clearly we will not remember or know that you cannot ever “school” or “teach” or “educate” anyone, especially a child, unless they themselves welcome it and want it. And no child or person ever wants to be “schooled” or “taught” or “educated”. All we ever want to do is learn when we are ready, and how we are ready, and why we are ready, and where we are ready, and you cannot ever force anyone to learn, much less a child, unless you want to destroy their natural indivduality. We have all been bashed in the heart and mind and teeth so many times by so much misused authority that we can no longer remember the obvious and inherent need in all children for freedom, and someone who will trust us that we already know what to do, and what and when we want to learn.
I have written several essays about children and schooling already that would be helpful to read as background support to the above passion of mine against fascism against anyone, especially against children. I have listed the essay numbers at the end of this essay. But this essay is against “home schooling”, which means against parents that are in effect home “fascists” (perhaps without even thinking about it), who believe that “a child must be schooled”, and “my child must have a good education”, and “children must be taught”, all brainwashings that came from their own lives as victims of parental and societal fascism and compulsory schooling. Why is “home fascism” more damaging than even lousy schools? As a matter of fact lousy schools provide for an amazing “education”, if education is more than just parroting information, while home schooling cages children in massive conflicts and oppression from every direction, with no escape.
A parent is meant to be a spirit guide for the lucid and omniscient babies that come into our lives as Love children. Parents are meant to Love their children exactly as they are, and never try and mold them or influence them beyond their innate selves and personalities. Parents are meant to trust their children that they know what they want, and what they want to do, from even when they are in the womb, right up to adulthood. Parents are meant to be on the side of their children, and not above them as persons. Parents are meant to treat their children like welcome and honored guests in their households. Parents are meant to recognize that the next generation is always more adept and more savvy and more capable than their own, and always seek to provide for the environment of happiness, and support, and a hopeful future, so that destiny can manifest itself naturally. Parents are meant to recognize that their own children have a better start, a better chance, and a better life than they themselves had, and to get out of the way of these bright spirits that still possess everything that they themselves as parents have lost.
Parents are meant to be the champions of their children to be just as they are, and to become who they are meant to be. Parents should be the first to welcome and trust true childhood, which is 20 years of imagination and boredom and fantasy and play and idleness and laziness and unruliness and obstinance and selfishness and self centeredness and rebellion and arrogance and on and on and on, all crucial and healthy stages of childhood that lead to healthy personhood. Parents should be the first to recognize true selfhood and true individuality, and true personhood, however the unique, young, passionate, genius child manifests it, and hopefully completely differently than any other child or spirit has ever done it before. A parent is a unique spirit-mentor-guide for their own children. Parents are not meant to be teachers, for you cannot teach, you can only learn, they are not meant to be sermonizers, for you cannot be made to believe, you can only believe, and parents are not meant to be disciplinarians, for you cannot discipline, you can only choose to obey.
Parents are already fascist dictators by design, having total power and control over young and powerless spirits. And parents always make the enormous error in imagining that just because children are small and needy, that they are also limited in their emotional and mental and psychological capacities. Our children are always more than we are or ever hoped to be. In truth all children are always watching their parents, just like we did our own parents, and we children are always noting when and where and how often our parents fall short in valuing and respecting and honoring us as unique and intelligent and very powerful spirits. We always note when our parents abuse and misuse their capacity as fascist dictators, and we are always so disappointed in them trying to guide us to be like them and their society. We normally have little value and respect for the lives of our parents and the society that they live in, since the lives of our parents are largely unfulfilled, if not a disaster, and the world they command is in shambles. As children we long for and dream of the day when our parents will notice us and value us and respect us and honor us and trust us to show them what we know and can do.
To be continued tomorrow. See you tomorrow.
Related essays about children: Essays 3, 15, 27, 28, 36, 43, 55, 56, 58, 68, 75, 77, and more to come.
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