Musings
From The Heart
An
Essay A Day For A Year
By
Roe
Day
149 May 28, 2012
The
Only Way To Find Happiness
Part
2
It is impossible for us to
be unhappy and still believe that we have had good and decent parents, for in
order for us to be deeply unhappy we most certainly had bad and indecent
parents. The worst thing that any unhappy person can do is to idealize their
own parents, the worst thing any unhappy person can do is to shelter their own
parents from blame and their own awareness that they are victims of child
trauma and deprivation from bad and indecent parents. Any parent that allows a fetus and newborn to
be traumatized in a sadistic, intervention “managed” birth in a hospital is a
bad and indecent parent. Any parent that
allows a newborn to be manhandled at birth and separated from its mother at
birth is a bad and indecent parent, and any parent that does not allow a
newborn to sleep in the arms of its mother and father in their own bed, is a
bad and indecent parent. Any parent that
allows the sadistic genital mutilation of circumcision in their son is a bad
and indecent parent, and any parent that does not allow their child to freely
cry at any time and receive patient and loving support at all times is a bad
and indecent parent. The list of
ignorant and inept and bad and indecent parenting is hundreds of pages long,
while the list of loving parenting is very short, it is simply putting the
primal needs of happiness of their child first and foremost, beyond any
ignorance or ineptitude or needs of the parent, and this means that part of loving
parenting is educating oneself and healing oneself so that our own pains are
not passed onto our children.
“My parents did their best”
is a defense and a copout from unhappy people that themselves birth and fail
their own unhappy children. There is no
excuse for the ignorant and inept parenting that we all received, and for the
sadistic hell that is perpetrated upon newborns in hospitals daily. In order for us all to reach towards our own
happiness we must face the fact that our parents were unhappy people who have
sadly let us down. In order for us to be happy we all need long term, deep
feeling therapy, where we mourn and grieve what happened to us at the hands of
our parents, and only then can we clear our unconscious psyches of the trauma
and deprivation and unfulfilled needs of our early lives. In order to become
loving and caring parents ourselves, we must not repeat the ineptness and
ignorance of our parents, and we must first heal ourselves and our own deep
primal pain before we pass it onto our children. We must never birth in fear and trauma in hospitals,
we must never allow our infants to be separated from us, we must always allow
our babies to sleep with us in our beds.
We must never, never genitally mutilate our sons with circumcision, and
we must always lovingly allow our children to cry, and cry as long as they need
to. We must always be willing to meet the emotional and psychological needs of
our children, and we must put the needs of our own children’s happiness in
first position, and that means putting our own emotional and psychological
healing in first position. In order to put the needs of our children before our
own, we absolutely must turn inwards and face and heal all of our own monsters
and demons that our parents put there, for if we don’t, we clearly are
victimized monsters and demons ourselves, and clearly monsters and demons to
our own innocent children.
We are all conceived to be
clear, loving, blue-sky souls, full of joy and Love, and the faulty nurture
that we received at the hands of our parents and caregivers and world created
terrible black storm clouds that simply hide our ability to feel happy, and
deny us clear sight of our beautiful selves.
To be truly happy we must return deeply into our own heart-psyche selves
to stand face to face with our own faulty parents and with eyes and hearts full
of tears, ask: “What did you do to me Mommy and Daddy that I am so unhappy, and
what did I need that you did not fulfill Mommy and Daddy that I am still so
unhappy?” We must be able to say: “You
failed me Mommy and Daddy and I am hurt, and I am unhappy”. We will find our happiness by facing our
unhappiness, and this entire process is an internal mourning and grieving loop
that we perfect in the present, but about our long lost and long repressed
past. There is no need to face our real parents eye to eye in the present.
We are perfectly designed to
heal ourselves, and nothing that ever wounded us in the past can ever harm us now
in the present. We are only in fear of
the pain that robbed us of our beautiful births and babyhoods and childhoods,
and we will remain unhappy until we reclaim back what is ours. What is ours is ALL of ourselves, and when we
have all of ourselves we have our happiness.
I long for true happiness, and I long to heal my inner child that is so
unhappy. I know you long for true
happiness too, and I know that you too can heal the child within you that is so
unhappy. I wish you all the Love that
you always dreamed of, for if you can brave to heal yourself, it will all be
yours. Your own children are right there
waiting for the happiness they deserve, as are mine. To change the world we must heal ourselves to
become happy, and then our happy children will change the world.
See you tomorrow.
yourpersonalmuse@gmx.com
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