Thursday, July 26, 2012

Day 159 - The Infamous Grudge Fuck - Part 2


Musings From The Heart
                                                An Essay A Day For A Year
                                                    By Roe
                                        Day 159 June 7, 2012


                                     The Infamous Grudge Fuck
                                                      Part 2


Both women and men can be sexually rebellious and sexually vengeful and sexually promiscuous, and both men and women can be sexually liberated and sexually active and slutty, but all men and women who engage in sex outside of Love, and without emotional interest and personal investment in the other person, are simply grudge fucking someone else through the person they are with.  Grudge fucking is sex driven by pain in the unconscious as a defense from primal catastrophic pain, and in effect we get off perversely and promiscuously on that which has hurt us in our babyhoods.  Modern, liberal sexuality, where we change partners often, and where we have sex with many partners without actual Love, is not free, consensual, liberal, liberated natural and normal sex, it is unconsciously rebelling against and grudge fucking our parents, and all the people in our pasts that imprinted our warped sexualities.  “Take that Mommy!  Boom boom!”  “Take that Daddy!  Boom boom!”  Slut, bitch, cunt, whore, asshole, monger, dick, jerk, these are the labels for Mommy and Daddy, and the anger we feel towards them sexually, and we say them to other people and use other people to get off on our sexualities without knowing or admitting that they represent Mommy and Daddy to us, and we don’t realize that we use people as weapons and tools against Mommy and Daddy.
When we realize why we are fucking and who we are really fucking and fucking over we can finally really enjoy our dark sex, for we can bring our minds and hearts and dicks and pussies all together onto the same page.  “Take that Mommy, you bitch and slut!  Boom boom!”  Take that Daddy you asshole and monger!  Boom boom!’  Normally, when we finally bring conscious that we are being grudge fucking sluts and using and being used by grudge fucking sluts against our parents in the guise of sexual freedom and sexual, liberal expression, we stop our fucking and our hearts begin to look for real Love on our own terms, rather than in reaction and rebellion and vengeance towards our parents.  Unfortunately that is when the repressed pain shifts costumes, and the sexy slut turns into the mean bitch, the charming monger turns into the mean asshole, and the pain surfaces instead in personality and mistreatment of others outside of sexuality, rather than in the sexuality. When this happens we have not really accomplished anything since we didn’t heal our pain or process or integrate our pain, we just shifted gears out of the sexual realm into the behavior realm.  We can also be grudging meanies as personalities also in revenge and rebellion against our parents, and not realize that that is not us.
Women do not fuck the men they like, they fuck the men that they are rebelling  with and acting out with, against their parents as a personal shock therapy against self in defensive survival, and as a personal shock therapy to harm their Daddies and Mommies. Men do not fuck the women they like, they fuck the women that they are rebelling with and acting out with, against their parents as a personal shock therapy against self in defensive survival from primal pain, and as a shock therapy to harm their Mommies and Daddies. 
The tragedy of the heart for us all is when we roam around as men and women in free and liberal sexuality with anyone and everyone, and then suddenly find that we are falling or have fallen in Love. In this way we begin our relationship grudge fucking our parents by using our meaningless lovers, and our meaningless lovers are using us to grudge fuck their own parents, and our hearts are forever galvanized to wonder whether our partners are in fact really sluts, or if the slutty grudge fucking was just a unique event, and they are forever wondering if we in fact are real sluts, or if our initial slutty grudge fucking was just a unique event.  How will we ever know what Love is and who loves who when we enter into relationships grudge fucking our parents by using our lovers for sex, and being used for sex, when we fall in Love afterwards. The unique conundrum here is that we are all sluts, and we are all chaste lovers, for sluthood and grudge fucking is completely natural and normal, and the actual paradigm of human sexuality. 
All males are fucked up by their fucked up parents and foolish to believe that the bad girl slut is for fucking, while they are looking for their one and only wifey-mommie, who of course cannot be a slut, while they are in fact sluts themselves. Do men really believe that there are two kinds of women? Men can’t bear the idea of their women having had dozens or hundreds or even thousands of sexual partners, yet they would and could have dozens or hundreds or even thousands of sexual women themselves and not see a conflict, as long as they keep it secret. That is the definition of a real slut male, a man with two sexual standards for two different kinds of women, when there is actually just one kind of woman, while he has a double standard as two males. That is the prototype asshole slut-Daddy that raises a daughter with two different standards, he would fuck his best friends daughter with all his buddies, but he doesn’t want his best friend fucking his daughter with all his buddies.  This Daddy later gets summarily grudge fucked by his daughter fucking lots of other males in anger and punishment for double dealing her.  All women are sluts and wifey-mommies to one extent or another, and sluthood and grudge fucking are acts and events and not definitions of personhood. In fact, the best wives and life-long female partners are ladies who have a large amount and variety of sexual experience.
All females are fucked up by their fucked up parents and foolish to believe that the bad boy slut man is for fucking, while they are looking for their one and only hubbie-daddy, who of course cannot be a slut, while they are in fact sluts themselves.  Women can’t bear the idea of their men having had dozens or hundreds or even thousands of sexual partners, yet they would and could have dozens or hundreds or even thousands of sexual partners themselves and not see a conflict, as long as they kept it secret. That is the definition of a real slut female, a woman with two sexual standards for two different kinds of men, when there is only one kind of man, while she has a double standard as two females. That is the prototype bitch-slut Mommy that raises a son with two standards, and who later gets grudge fucked by her son fucking lots of other females in anger and punishment for double dealing him.  All men are sluts and hubby-daddies to one extent or another, and sluthood and grudge fucking are acts and events and not definitions of personhood.  In fact, the best husbands and life-long male partners are men who have a large amount and variety of sexual experience.
If we want to know real love, and real making Love, let us all follow our hearts first, and then our minds, and then our genitals last.  Let us love people and make love to people, and not grudge fuck people.  That means that we don’t have sex unless we have an emotional interest and personal investment in our lovers. Let us heal ourselves and grieve and mourn our childhoods and repair the damage from our slut and grudge fucking parents and what they did to us, consciously or inadvertently unconsciously, and let us love our mates without bringing our Mommies and Daddies into bed with us.  It does not matter whether the men and women that we love have had one or one thousand fucks before us, it only matters that they have Love for only us, and when they do, and when we do for them, let us give them our loving sexuality as a gift, not as a grudge against our Mommies and Daddies. but as a gift of elevating Love sexuality to each other.  

See you tomorrow.


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