Musings
From The Heart
An
Essay A Day For A Year
By
Roe
Day
150 May 29, 2012
Religion
As A Crutch Of Happiness
Part
1
It is said that religion is
the drug of the masses, and it is said that religion is a crutch that we rely
on to hold us up. What would the world
do without the drug and crutch of religion?
Many people feel that we would all be a lot better off. It is a fact that psychologically and
emotionally unhealthy people, people who are internally unhappy, need drugs and
crutches more than happy people. People
who have problems with happiness, people who have emotional and psychological
problems, turn to religion and spiritual practices more and more often than
happy people.
As written in the previous
two essays, the only way to become truly happy is to heal ourselves, including
and especially our unconscious minds, of any unhappiness. God or religion or spiritual practice can
never do this, no matter how much faith we think we have, no matter how much we
believe, and no matter how much we practice or try. The only way to truly become happy is to heal
ourselves by mourning and grieving what happened to us as babies and children
that shouldn’t have happened to us, and to mourn and grieve what did not happen
to us as babies and children but should have happened. Happiness is not outside
of us, not in a faith outside of us, or a belief outside of us, and not a
practice or action outside of us. Happiness is only inside of us, and our
internal happiness, or our loss of our internal happiness, preceded any beliefs
in spirituality or idealization of spiritual concepts.
It is no accident that man
has created God and all religion to be exact realizations of himself and
herself, and all religions and spiritual belief systems read like human family
soap operas of Mommy and Daddy Gods and all their subjects, and all the things
they did wrong, and the things they should have done right. How simplistic and arrogant to create our
Gods and our spirituality in our own form. There are more suns in the universe
than there are grains of sand on the entire Earth, and every sun has a solar
system, and it is quite obvious that life like our own is plentiful in the
universe. Aliens to Earth are a given,
and it is likely if not probable that there are aliens far more evolved and
advanced than we are. We have not patterned our spiritual beliefs or practices
upon these superior alien God creatures, but upon ourselves. How convenient is that? We have invented our
own God drug, and our own spiritual crutch, so that we may deal with our own
unhappiness. The dinosaurs inhabited our
Earth many millions of years before we existed, and they inhabited our Earth many
millions of years more than perhaps we ever will, yet we don’t worship dinosaur
Gods as we should, or practice giant reptilian spiritual practices as we
should. Instead we invent our own Gods
that are like the Daddy that we fear or wished we had, and we invent our own
beliefs of our perfect Mommy that we only wished for, or we sour grape
ourselves into sidestepping our miserable life into some kind of illusion that
we can hide from.
We cannot become happy by
believing in a good God-Daddy in the sky just because we had an inept and
harmful Daddy here on Earth, and we should never cause our children to believe
in such nonsense in place of loving parenting.
Any believer of any power “outside” clearly has a severe problem with
their own histories “inside”. We cannot become happy by believing in a virgin
Mommy who had a God-son to save us, when our own Mommy is far from pure, and when
we ourselves only longed to be saved by our own inept and ignorant parents. We
should never cause our children to believe in such nonsense in place of loving
parenting. We cannot find or receive
from any belief system what we do not possess inside, and if we possessed Love
inside we would not need to believe in the Love outside. No person who had
ideal, loving parents, ever needed to believe in invented pseudo parents in the
sky, or believe in manipulative, nonsense stories in archaic old books.
We cannot become happy by
meditating, or by believing in or finding some middle path or any path, or by
believing that anything is a concept or practice or an illusion. No practice we
will ever engage in will hide or heal our terribly wounded hearts and psyches,
and our spiritual practices are simply defense sidesteps so that we don’t have
to admit how our inept and ignorant parents failed us and let us down. True happiness and true enlightenment is
simply a human heart and mind that is fully and completely integrated into one
loving whole, and the only way to do that is to grieve the traumas and
deprivations and unfulfilled needs that prevent us from our happiness.
Believing in God, or
practicing this spiritual practice or that one, is all spiritual sidestepping
of the real true fact, the fact that we are deeply wounded, deeply split off
from our own ability to be happy, and deeply lost and miserable without the
Love that we crave. God is simply a replacement Daddy, mean and judgmental and
kind and fair and loving and scary and wonderful, because we lacked an adequate
Daddy for our own selves as a baby and child.
We must ask our own fathers? “Why weren’t you enough for me Daddy that I
need to believe in invented God-Daddies, or believe or practice that it is not
your fault that I cannot find happiness?”
All the minimalized and subjugated women in religion and spiritual practices
throughout the ages are idealized replacements to hide the truth that we lacked
an adequate mother for ourselves in our baby and childhoods. We need to ask our
mothers: “Why were you not enough for me Mommy that I need to idealize other imagined
mothers, or believe or practice that it is not your fault that I cannot find
happiness?”
Without religion, what would
we do? People that are internally happy
and have integrated the pain of the parents that failed them will go on living
happily without needing to invent or worship pseudo God-parents, and people
that are at peace with themselves because they have no repressed trauma do not
need to seek peace as a spiritual practice.
To be continued tomorrow in
part 2
See you tomorrow
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